“We are not responsible for emotions, but we are responsible for what we do with them”. – Jorge Bucay
Emotions are great messengers. They have a meaning in themselves, none of them appear in your life just because.
If you learn to recognize and express your emotions, you will develop a much kinder vision of life and, as a consequence, you will better tolerate stress and loss of control in the face of changes. In turn, it will be much easier for you to understand the emotions of those around you and respect their times.
Usually, the most difficult emotions to sustain are sadness, anger and fear.
If we learn to manage them with love and compassion, they become great allies. The most important thing is you do not try to deny or cover them.
Today we will talk about sadness.
Stay present in the emotion
When an emotion comes, breathe and feel, allow it to occupy a space in your body, to expand. Observe where in your body do you feel it?
Sadness
Sadness appears when we are going through a grieving process. It is important to keep in mind that, when we speak of grief, we are not only referring to the physical death of a person, but to loss in general. For example, it may happen that you move houses and leave behind a house in which you have lived endless experiences. This can lead you to a grieving process, which in turn unconsciously reactivates previous unresolved duels. Although the new house is bigger and more beautiful, even if it is what you always dreamed of, this new step in your life is accompanied by a deep sadness that is unintelligible to you. In this example, recognizing that you are experiencing a grieving process frees you and allows you to open up to the new without burdens.
A good way to consciously close this cycle would be to say goodbye to your old home, thanking all the experiences that it facilitated and hosted. Take the necessary time and allow yourself to be fully present.
Life cycles and changes
Sadness appears in your life so that you stop and can go through that moment with the greatest stillness. When sadness appears, we feel that we lack strength; we feel that our vital energy disappears and each daily activity demands much more effort.
Sometimes, changes occurring in Menopause can be difficult to manage, our body changes, our mood, our hours of sleep …
Each of us is different and, therefore, we experience changes in different ways. The important thing is that you understand that this is one more cycle, and that these changes lead to a grieving process, simply because something changes in you.
What comes into your life after the grieving process
can be a wonderful gift.
What to do when sadness appears?
Allow yourself to be present in it, try not to avoid it or cover it up.
Make a list and see what has changed in your life and do not look for only “bad” experiences, observe the changes as neutral facts.
Is there something that has changed? It can be a physical, bonding, or even thinking change, don’t leave any change or loss out of your observation no matter how small it may seem.
Take the time to be aware of everything associated with this change, allow the associated emotions without judging them as good or bad.
Once you have observed each change, decide if any situation on your list needs closure in your life; something that for one reason or another remains open or unfinished.
Take a few moments, appreciate all their learning and imagine leaving that situation behind and walking towards your life.
Mariela Mazza.
Lifestyle. Menopause. Mental Wellbeing. Women’s Empowerment.
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