One of the biggest gifts that menopause gives us is learning to let go. Everything passes and is transformed. The only inevitable thing is change. If we accept that everything seems to be upside down, the opportunity we have to open ourselves to the acceptance of new conditions is undeniable. And we can do it easily by releasing our old expectations and flowing with the new.
If you say “yes” every day, instead of complaining and longing for what you do not have, you gradually become a resilient woman. You’ll make the best of a new situation, thank the higher powers and understand that “That” was then but it is gone now.
Three steps towards liberation
Once you have practiced releasing everything through three simple steps: accept, thank and let go, life gets lighter, but above all joyful. We stop thinking about what we no longer have and focus on what we have. It allows us to enjoy the present without being distracted by things that are no longer there.
This is a wonderful experience that allows you to focus on today, and collaborate with the universe to make this new reality one in which you are a co-creator. At this point in your life, the menopause, whether at the beginning, at its peak, or at the end, you have the option to focus your life on yourself. Everything that has gone opens up a great space destined to be filled for your soul in its truest and purest expression.
Acceptance
One of the most important practices in the liberation process is acceptance. Let’s look at an example, one of the most obvious and the hardest to integrate at this time. The body begins to change. Suddenly there are pains in the most unexpected places, sometimes for no apparent reason. It is more difficult for you to maintain the weight you want to have, the fat begins to pile up in places that are uncomfortable. Every day you discover wrinkles on your face that were not there before. And thus, your physique seems to remind you all the time of the passage of time.
The first thing to do is accept your new condition. Trust the laws of Nature, or God, if you prefer. Through observation and contemplation integrate into yourself the woman who looks out of the mirror. Without a doubt, in her eyes there is a need for affection and recognition.
This is the new you.
It may be difficult at first. You get angry, resist or feel sad. The way to integrate these feelings is to accept them too. They are parts of human nature that you have the right to feel. But only accept them enough to allow yourself to experience them so they will lose strength and lighten until they dissolve.
Unconditional love
Thus, little by little you will get used to yourself, and from this unconditional love you will have the opportunity to be grateful for what you were and let it go. Therein lies the magic. I assure you that, in that moment of liberation, the space that I mentioned at the beginning will have opened. Once you have accepted, grateful for and liberated from that is no longer, the same impulse to take care of yourself and be happy that you had before will awaken in you.
This new skin also deserves to be caressed, hydrated, loved. Maybe your body deserves a size up or down, to feel comfortable and free. Your hair accepts the madness and thanks you by drying perhaps simply in the sun. Your sex is happy to be recognized as one of the most powerful centers of enjoyment in your body. You can allow it to live new or different experiences that make it explode with pleasure.
I am sure that the art of letting go, which is eminently feminine, is the biggest tool and gift that women have when we reach this glorious moment. Let go of everything in consciousness and you will be surprised to discover a new you, which has been forging itself within. The more space you give it, the more joy it will bring you. Dress as yourself.
Diana Torija.
Menopause. Mental Wellbeing. Women’s Empowerment.
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