Most of us, consciously or unconsciously, have a little fear that peeks out when we hear the word menopause.
If we are very young, we usually let it pass as a distant noise that we do not even need to pay attention to. If we are approaching this stage, which may be in our 40s, we want to continue ignoring it, but the noise comes closer and more often. In the end, due to things that are happening to us in the body and in the soul, we must dare to inquire what that mysterious and even frightening word hides.
Review all those things that scare you. If you look closely, you will notice that we fear what we do not know or what has left a painful mark on us. With menopause I think there is a mixture of both.
Menopause is still a taboo in the XXI century, just as fifty years ago menstruation was. Nobody speaks freely and deeply about it, and the information is scarce and partial. Also, this stage of a woman’s life has physical and emotional symptoms that can remind us of old aches and pains. But the two things that make menopause scary have a simple and comforting solution.
To dispel that fear, we have to get out of our hiding place. We must explore it in its true meaning and characteristics. Information is power, and if we add experience, it becomes wisdom.
What is menopause?
The Google definition is: “Menopause occurs because a woman’s ovaries stop producing hormones estrogen and progesterone. A woman reaches menopause when she does not have a menstrual period for a year. The changes and symptoms can start several years earlier.”
This information is completely true but only the tip of the iceberg. It is limited simply to what happens at the level of the body, giving it all the importance. This makes us believe that if attend to the physical (unfortunately, as if it were a disease) menopuase will soon disappear and we will be able to happily continue with our lives.
However, menopause is a watershed in a woman’s life in which there is a change in energy. And whenever there is a change in energy, a crisis is generated. Please do not think of a crisis as a tragedy that will not be resolved. I will tell you a secret: crisis is always destined for new birth, that is its vocation. It must be understood as the moment that life gives us to adapt, and although sometimes it is difficult, the key is to surrender to this chaos. The chaos will accommodate itself. It will be less aggressive as long as you do not resist it and flow like a fish with the current, however turbulent it may be.
What do I have to know about Menopause to begin to understand it?
I will give you some tips so that you can reflect on them calmly and deeply. I assure you that with this change in perception, menopause will not be a pain but a beautiful rebirth to the mature woman that you are called to be.
- It is perfectly natural that the body makes adjustments, sometimes will have symptoms or discomfort. But, remember that everything passes. They will disappear once you adapt to this new state of body, mind and soul.
- The crisis, that is, the adaptation period, will be smoother and more bearable as you accept it, embrace it and take care of yourself. Pay attention to what your body needs, from regulating your sleep hours, to eating double ice cream if you feel like it. Take care of your emotional needs, cultivate the relationships that matter to you. Get closer to a higher power, or whatever your beliefs allow.
- The sexual organ naturally has two physical functions, and creativity resides in both. The first is to give life in the magical experience of giving birth. The second is to give yourself pleasure and joy through sexual encounters (including alone) that you can transform into the divine energy that will result in giving birth to yourself, now inward. When after menopause the first function disappears, what you still have left is a blissful sex life that fuels our creativity.
There are many other things you can find for yourself now that you know that menopause is a treasure and not a punishment. Dare to look it in the eye and ask it what it is going to give you today. Soon you will feel proud to have met this stage in your life, and you will say “I am in menopause, and that makes me very happy.”
Diana Torija.
Lifestyle. Menopause. Menopause & Sex Life. Women’s Empowerment.
Photo by Liza Summer.
